Grace Like Scarlett
Vendor: Baker Books
Publication Date: May 01, 2018
Number of Pages: 224
Dimensions: 8.50 × 5.50 (inches)
With vulnerability and tenderness, Adriel Booker shares her own experience of three consecutive miscarriages, as well as the stories of others. She tackles complex questions about faith and suffering with sensitivity and clarity, inviting women to a place of grace, honesty, and hope in the redemptive purposes of God without offering religious clichés and pat answers. She also shares specific, practical resources, such as ways to help guide children through grief, suggestions for memorializing your baby, and advice on pregnancy after loss, as well as a special section for dads and loved ones.
Adriel Booker has spent the last seventeen years serving in global missions as an international speaker, writer, photographer, leadership coach, and mentor. Through her popular blog, www.adrielbooker.com, she has built a loyal readership of active followers while exploring topics related to family and parenting, practical spirituality, missions, and maternal health and women's issues. Adriel leads The Love A Mama Collective, a movement working to mobilize everyday mothers toward empowering women in the developing world through safe birth initiatives, and coleads an inner city YWAM community in the heart of Sydney, Australia, with her Aussie husband, Ryan, and their three young "AusMerican" boys.
Miscarriage is not a common topic of conversation in many circles and yet it is something that touches many, many lives. If you have not experienced this yourself, you probably know someone who has, even if they've never spoken of it. It is not something that has touched our family directly but has touched a number we care about. Because it is something not often talked about I was encouraged when I saw this book by Adriel Booker because I was hopeful it would provide comfort to many who hurt and ache in silence.
What jumped out at me as a dad and pastor, was the letter to dads in the back written by the author's husband. Though I've never lost a child, we do have a child with Down Syndrome for whom I went through a period of mourning and grief. Though my pain is not the same as that the Bookers, or anyone else who has lost a baby, there is still commonality and I found comfort in another dad sharing his grief.
Two other appendices that are included provide ideas for memorializing your child and helping your other children process their grief. Though mothers certainly carry the heaviest burden in the loss of child and it is for them this book is written, the rest of the family must not be forgotten.
As a pastor, I would say this book is worth having for the appendices because as you do life with the people in your congregation, you will walk this journey with someone at some point. I would also recommend having a copy on hand ready to give to one who needs it, I do.
I haven’t experienced miscarriage or loss personally but I have had to watch a number of close friends walk through the painstaking journey of loss. Time and time again I struggled to find what to say or how to support them. Even referencing God’s purpose or will through it all seemed trivial and impossible at the time. Grace Like Scarlett fills the gaps where I felt I couldn’t support my loved ones. I have no doubt it will also fill the void where supportive resources for those grieving also seems to be lacking.
Adriel’s writing is captivating, easy to understand and eye opening . When she writes about her personal experiences I was in awe of the raw emotions and process that others have gone through. It was heartbreaking to read - but necessary for me to understand.
As Adriel begins to tap into her theology behind God, and suffering a lightbulb went off in my mind and heart. This doesn’t just apply to miscarriage or the loss of a child — but all loss; all suffering and it was life-giving to understand more about God in the midst of it all.
Whether you are a man, woman, brother, sister, mother or father, Grace Like Scarlett is a must read to aid in breaking down the barriers of isolation surrounding those wading through the journey of miscarriage and loss.